Self-Help Is Like Masturbation

You may be wondering why I focus a lot on psychology these days.

One reason is that my own state of mind, related to a major accident I recently incurred has come under threat by the ghosting of a partner who unannounced chose to leave the scene. I relate to psychological analysis a little better these days.

But forget about me. More important is the systemic dysfunction inherent to humanity’s constructs that cause severe and widespread psychological damage across America and copy-cultures around the world.

The suicide rate amongst American’s is now at a 30-year high, and teenage girls influenced by social media commit suicide at a clip of 70% (compared to 25% for boys) with increasing hospital admissions from non-fatal self-harm. Overall, 70% of Americans are chronically dependent on prescription drugs, the vast majority on anti-depressants. Forty-thousand, yes 40,000, Americans die each month as a result of obesity. Add to that a coddling culture equipped with a labyrinth of safe spaces and trigger words, making the next generation more sensitive and weaker than the previous. Welcome to American excellence.

The least costly remedy to that growing humanitarian problem is buying or listening to self-help books that undercut the professional assistance of experienced psychologists who understand relationships are relativity theories. Instead, many of us now absorb easy-peasy twelve-step plans for personal betterment from books they purchase on Amazon. A medium unable to question your causal role in the relationship that may have induced the conflict.

Masturbation, no matter how many times you perform that sexual act, will not improve your ability to be a great lover. Absorbing self-help scripts, no matter how ingenious, will not improve your ability to build mutually satisfying relationships. You must show up when it matters.

Let’s build better systems, by using nature’s first-principles to align ourselves with what truly matters. And talk to each other, in person, to overcome the hurdles everyone at some point will face in life.

Let’s lead the world by example with new rigors of excellence we first and successfully apply to ourselves.

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